Say What?????

[patgund]

This story, (and commentaries thereof) have shown up on polyamory, dot_poly_snark, and blackthornglade's LJ

"I have accidentally slept with one of my best friend’s girlfriends."

Excuse me.....

HOW IN THE WORLD DOES ONE "ACCIDENTLY" SLEEP WITH SOMEONE??????? Yes, I know the Talmud has instructions regarding this, but the right set of circumstances has to happen first - like a rube goldberg construct.

(Shakes head) Impaired judgement, yeah. Lack of responsibility, yeah. But no accident.

Comments

[caprine.livejournal.com]

I suppose theoretically he could have slept with her and only afterwards found out that she was dating his best friend. That could count as "accidentally sleeping with best friend's girlfriend". Though from his post it is plainly not the case, and he is an asshat.

[angelique69.livejournal.com]

I was thinking about that accidently finding out after the fact thing too. One of my best friends now and I found out we had slept with each other's boyfriends. In both cases the gentlemen in question desperately needed a "mercy fuck" because they couldn't get what they were used to. We were both grateful to the other and it has not changed our relationship one iota. It has been many years since either one of us was involved with either gentleman but I suspect that neither one of us would have been angry then either. Blessed Be, Angelique

Sexual mishaps and misadventures

[ghostlyviolet.livejournal.com]

Hello, Patrick!

My two cents' worth on the issue: I don't believe it's possible to accidently have sex, although it's certainly possible to make mentally and/or emotionally impaired decisions to have sex or to be a victim of rape or other forms of sexual assault. Perhaps the "accident" the discussion is *really* refering to is that of having sex with a partner one would not have chosen had he known of her relationship to his friend. It *is* possible to be ignorant in that regard, and some folks might call such a mishap an accident. I personally prefer to call it a mistake due to ignorance. But then I tend to want to know enough about a potential partner that, barring her/his lying to me, I wouldn't be *that* ignorant.

Interesting issue!

Have a much better weekend than your last one, sweetheart!

*hugs & kisses*
Vi!