Statement

[patgund]

This post inspired by this truly powerful post.

When I was 13, I was raped by three men. When I tried to tell my dad, (who's memory I loathe to this day), he backhanded me into a wall and said I was lying, because things like that didn't happen to boys. No police report was ever filed. For all I know, the three who did this assulted others in the same way.

It took three days for the blood spots in my underwear to go away. It took almost ten years to come to terms with what happened - and to not allow it to affect me any more.

Time, love, and patience is what helped. Things I didn't get when it happened - but what I got later on. Not to mention friends that would like to bring my father back to life so they can beat the snot out of him for me.

More of my friends than I care to admit have had this happen - and very few men to this way will want to talk about it if it happens to them.

No, I am neither ashamed or a victim any longer.

My name is Patrick, and I'm a survivor of sexual violence.
No Pity. No Shame. No Silence.

Comments

[selenesue.livejournal.com]

Wow, Patrick. This explains a lot. Add me to the list of snot-beaters...

My name is Susan, and I'm a survivor of sexual violence. I'll tell my story sometime, I don't think I'm quite ready yet.

[aeddie.livejournal.com]

My name is Steve and I'm proud to call both of you friend and chosen family.

I have been so lucky . . .

[firedrake-mor.livejournal.com]

That I -was- never abused sexually. Emotionally's another issue, for another time.

Susan, you are my dearest love and my best friend, and I'm prouder of you than you know for facing this.

Patrick, you are my friend and my brother, and I'm proud to call you both.

[jkusters]

Thank you for sharing your story. I can only hope that the perpetrators eventually came to feel the horribly negative effects that their actions had.

JOhn.

[patgund.livejournal.com]

One way or another, they will eventually have to face - or have already faced - the results of their actions. Such is the wheel, such is karma.

[jadeinsoca.livejournal.com]

I stole this, added my story and posted it in my journal. Hope you dont ming

[patgund.livejournal.com]

Not at all dear, not at all.

*hug*

[fezabel.livejournal.com]

I'm not ready to talk about anything like this yet with reference to myself, which is why it's not on my LJ. I read some of the stories today and they moved me to tears. Including yours.

*hug*

[patgund.livejournal.com]

*hug*

I understand the reasons. - and you have what support and comfort I may give you for them.

[thats-ms-dragon.livejournal.com]

(((hugs)))

[angelique69.livejournal.com]

I'm one of the people that like to beat the snot out of your father as you well know. My name is Angelique, and I'm a survivor of sexual violence.
No Pity. No Shame. No Silence. Blessed Be, Angelique

[edda.livejournal.com]

Hi. Read your comment on the hugely long thread on someone else's LJ, which I found via another friend's LJ. I was very moved.

I hope you're OK. I'm lucky in that this never happened to me, but it breaks my heart to read about others who've been through it. I really can't say what drew me to your post specifically, but angel, you're in my thoughts. Peace.

[mareklamo.livejournal.com]

It was a truly powerful post, and so is yours. Thank you for sharing.

[lunariia.livejournal.com]

(Posting this here in reply to your story in teh uber long thread of doom.)

It take a lot of guts to post something like that, the shock and revulsion I felt at reading what happened to you took my breath away.

No pity, just admiration for courage.