What a poisonous little article.......
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patgundThree on a match can be dangerous
Problem #1 - "In my clinical practice, I've found that when people swing there is usually a problem. Sharing sex with multiple partners is seldom an offshoot of a healthy relationship."
The couples she sees are in trouble for a variety of reasons. So she's not seeing any relationship, closed, open, mono, poly, swinging, whatever, in a healthy state.
Problem #2 - "Threesome fantasies feed directly into male evolutionary urgings, since men are genetically predisposed to spread their seed and commune with as many fertile females as possible. So let's let them off the hook and help them focus on healthy sexual pursuits."
Translation - "The poor things can't think with anything but their gentials, so let's give them that excuse for being enslaved by all that testosterone".
Problem #3 - "Men tend to be more lustful, in life and in their fantasies. They frequently objectify the objects of their fantasy, and focus on physical attributes. Women muse more about seduction, setting and emotion."
Funny, I'm a big thinker on subjects like seduction, setting, and the emotional context and subtext involved. And last time I checked, I was male.
Problem #4 - "Polyamory, that pie-in-the-sky idea that you can love and bed more than one person at a time, ultimately doesn't work. Rather, it's a much better idea to find ways to spice up your sex life a deux.
Share appropriate fantasies that feature your partner as the main event. Break out the video camera and erase the tape afterward. Have sex in a public bathroom. Share some self-love, that most taboo of activities, in front of each other. That way you get the thrill of a little kinkiness without having to invite anybody else into your bed."
Excuse me, she suggests that breaking the law and having sex in a public restroom is a better option than having two (or more) loving relationships??? Dare I ask why??
And "Self-love" being "that most taboo of activities"??? Please. Rubber-clad penguins in bondage is taboo, "self-love" is, at worse, only very mildly kinky.
As for "pie-in-the-sky", yes, Poly relationships take work. Newsflash, EVERY relationship, even the one you have with yourself, takes work.
She's making generalizations based on a skewed represenative sample. If I tried that in college, the paper would have (rightly so) gotten a D or F.
Problem #1 - "In my clinical practice, I've found that when people swing there is usually a problem. Sharing sex with multiple partners is seldom an offshoot of a healthy relationship."
The couples she sees are in trouble for a variety of reasons. So she's not seeing any relationship, closed, open, mono, poly, swinging, whatever, in a healthy state.
Problem #2 - "Threesome fantasies feed directly into male evolutionary urgings, since men are genetically predisposed to spread their seed and commune with as many fertile females as possible. So let's let them off the hook and help them focus on healthy sexual pursuits."
Translation - "The poor things can't think with anything but their gentials, so let's give them that excuse for being enslaved by all that testosterone".
Problem #3 - "Men tend to be more lustful, in life and in their fantasies. They frequently objectify the objects of their fantasy, and focus on physical attributes. Women muse more about seduction, setting and emotion."
Funny, I'm a big thinker on subjects like seduction, setting, and the emotional context and subtext involved. And last time I checked, I was male.
Problem #4 - "Polyamory, that pie-in-the-sky idea that you can love and bed more than one person at a time, ultimately doesn't work. Rather, it's a much better idea to find ways to spice up your sex life a deux.
Share appropriate fantasies that feature your partner as the main event. Break out the video camera and erase the tape afterward. Have sex in a public bathroom. Share some self-love, that most taboo of activities, in front of each other. That way you get the thrill of a little kinkiness without having to invite anybody else into your bed."
Excuse me, she suggests that breaking the law and having sex in a public restroom is a better option than having two (or more) loving relationships??? Dare I ask why??
And "Self-love" being "that most taboo of activities"??? Please. Rubber-clad penguins in bondage is taboo, "self-love" is, at worse, only very mildly kinky.
As for "pie-in-the-sky", yes, Poly relationships take work. Newsflash, EVERY relationship, even the one you have with yourself, takes work.
She's making generalizations based on a skewed represenative sample. If I tried that in college, the paper would have (rightly so) gotten a D or F.
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Another of her "points"
Date: 2006-12-06 10:28 pm (UTC)Threesomes, as they are less charmingly called, can be STD-riddled, jealousy-filled excursions that I don't recommend most couples take.
She's ok with acting out D/s fantasies but threesomes are right out. Besides what if the threesome is HER idea? And it may be MMF not just MFF.
She needs a flogging.